Why be in a relationship if there is no romance? What is the real purpose of being in a relationship?Is romance important or even necessary?
Romance can enhance and deepen a couple’s relationship, but it isn't necessarily a requirement for its success. The real purpose of being in a loving relationship is to foster companionship, support, and mutual growth. While romance can create a bonding opportunity with the added benefit of excitement, and passion, it's not the sole foundation of a healthy partnership. The essential elements of a healthy union often include trust, communication, shared values, and emotional connection. However, romance does play a significant role in opening the heart to keep a relationship vibrant and enjoyable.
To build romance in a relationship, optimally it is best to focus on the energy that comes from being a giver:
Remember, being a giver doesn't mean neglecting your own, very important needs, but rather prioritizing your partner's happiness and well-being alongside your own. Building and sustaining romance is a mutual effort that can lead to a happier, more fulfilling, and lasting connection with your partner.
With that said, some people believe that romance is silly and not needed to have a successful relationship. I’ve heard people say, “I don’t do romance!”
To have a successful relationship, the giving and receiving of love is essential. How do you show love and do it sincerely without invoking a sense of obligation?
Romance can mean a lot of things. Generally, when someone does something romantic, they are doing it to make their loved one feel cared about. For example: a boyfriend/girlfriend might spread rose petals from the front door to the bedroom, with the bulk of the petals on the bed to show their loved one the sincerity of his or her love. Champagne might be served with strawberries and chocolate. Some might even consider drizzling chocolate in special places to evoke pleasure. The point of this ritual is to show genuine thoughtfulness and to demonstrate how much you care in creative ways.
Another person might choose to show their love by planning a special outing as a surprise. One of my personal favorite romantic experiences was had on a first date that I went on with a boy I met at school. He gave me advance notice to wear comfortable clothes and shoes. He picked me up at my house and we drove to a beautiful destination at Chatsworth Park where we hiked up a mountain to enjoy the sunset. He brought an incredible picnic dinner that had for starters, wine, cheese, and crackers as an appetizer. Then afterwards, delicious crab legs to enjoy. We finished with dessert! I felt so cared for and extremely pampered.
When people go out of their way to do special things for the people they care about, their conscientious actions depends the bond and trust between two people.
Anytime you go out of your way to create ambiance, a special outing, food, help out in some way or just be there for someone when help is needed, you drive home your concern and love for the person on the receiving end.
Doing special things shows others that they are important to you and worthy of receiving special attention.
You can be romantic in simple ways that tell others that they matter. You can leave “I love you” notes for no reason, except to brighten their day.
You can give your significant other the TV remote and let them choose the entertainment for the evening. It’s simple, but it’s the small daily things that truly matter. These simple things open the heart, especially of the giver.
Communication and body language are great ways to show others how you feel. Oftentimes the positive or negative energy you express shows others how you feel about yourself. Fractured communication can put barriers up making it nearly impossible to bridge the gap between two people. If you’re sarcastic at the expense of another, you demonstrate your lack of consideration for their well-being. This sends up a red flag and can immediately cause a loved one to distance him or herself from the suitor.
Angry, impatient voices can be perceived as personal and can distance lovers, stopping the flow of the courtship dance. It becomes too difficult to get to know one another in a genuine way.
People often sabotage their relationships because of subconscious fears, worries, and concerns. They may fell unworthy and undeserving of love.
To be open to receive love, it is essential to have a healthy self-esteem. To feel worthy of love, it is vital to accept yourself today, not next week, next year, or when you become rich and famous. It all starts in the present. When you respect and love yourself, as you are now, others will feel the love, and be open to getting to know and love you.
When we don’t feel good about ourselves, our lack of self-confidence can prevent us from meeting people. It can stop us from getting to know them because we may also see others as unworthy to be close to. This happens because we fail to see how we are all interconnected. When we start to see that everyone is worthy of love, then our heart can begin to open.
Only when your heart and self-worth have healed, will you be open and receptive to the good that surrounds you. This enables you to love others and yourself.
When you give, the giver is always loved and appreciated. Perhaps not always in the way you might hope, but your life will be blessed, even if love is not reciprocated.
It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
In life, it is important to risk disappointment. If we fail, at least we learn something more about ourselves, others, and the world.
Set free the people you love, and if they are truly meant to be with you, they will return to love you in a deeper, more profound way.
If you hold on too tightly to the people in your world, you will suffocate them. If you set them free to love those people who will make them the happiest, then you are discovering how to really love others without strings attached. From this place of unconditional love, your life will be blessed, and you will attract the right and ideal people who resonate with what you are all about.
So remember, if you want to spice up your love life or take steps to develop a more loving relationship with someone you care about, take extra time to plan special moments to bond with them in deeper more connected ways.
Give love without any sort of expectations, to demonstrate pure spiritual love to all!!!
In what romantic ways will you choose to show love to the person you care about?
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Lily Rose was born and raised in Southern California, and lived in the San Fernando Valley for most of her adult life. She is the oldest of eight children. For eight years Lily taught in Los Angeles schools. For the past twenty years, Lily Rose has been a licensed, ordained Center for Spiritual Living minister. Since 1998, she has been helping to awaken her clients to their “spiritual magnificence.”