How to Stop Being a Doormat!

Do you often feel taken advantage of when you help others? If you feel drained emotionally, it is time to take back your power!

First of all, no one can take away your power unless you give them permission to do so. If you give them permission, it may be because you feel undeserving of love. This can occur if you are running on old dysfunctional programs you learned while in a hypnagogic state when young. When in this state, you unconsciously accepted what you learned from others. Maybe you were told that you were unlovable or that you would never amount to anything! These kinds of programs can sabotage your ability to live a healthy life. To reverse the damage, you have to unlearn anything that is unproductive, and heal from traumas that have helped to form your personality. To do this you can reprogram your subconscious mind to rewire your brain for success.

To help you on your journey toward personal success, it is also important to learn about energy and how your choices affect your life. Within you is an inner guidance system geared to attract the people, places, and opportunities that match what you are all about! What you attract helps to shape your reality in either a negative or positive way. It is up to you to have the courage to make choices that resonate with the integrity of your higher self. High vibrational energy choices help to build a strong foundation upon which to construct a life that is healthy and balanced. However, no matter what out-pictures in your life, everything is in Divine right order. So, resist the urge to judge yourself or others!

If your life is out of balance, shift toward accepting yourself just as you are and embody unconditional love for yourself and others. Then, begin again knowing that your life is perfect in its imperfection. Why? Because in my way of thinking, since God is all powerful and all that exists, then everything that manifests is a cell in the body of God, the life force energy of all creation. Meaning that, all life is God’s life, uniquely expressed individually through you and me, in a unity consciousness. What you do to others, you are inexplicably doing to yourself. So treat others the way you would want to be treated! If you don’t, there will be karma to pay!

Time waits for no one, and if you squander your life currency on people who are disrespectful and don’t appreciate you, you are “not loving” what God has created…the people in your life and especially, YOU! When in any kind of negative reactionary confrontation, teach individuals how to treat you by thanking them for their suggestions and then excuse yourself. In this way you do not disrespect yourself by participating in conversations that are filled with sarcasm, anger, aggression, and cynicism, etc.

When you bow out, you are doing them a favor by setting them free to heal in their own time. It is impossible to change anyone and it is not your responsibility to do so. No matter how much you love and care for others, you can’t force them to love or appreciate you.

There is no problem if you desire to help others who are having a difficult time helping themselves. However, you must release all expectations as to what you believe should manifest in their lives. If you become attached to what you think you should receive for your good works, your intentions are not pure and are made from a conditional space that is selfish in nature. This kind of action is self-serving and can sabotage your efforts.  
If out of insecurity you allow others to take advantage of your good nature and the benefits of such behavior, you may be unintentionally making the choice to be a doormat for others to wipe their feet upon. When you do this, you are allowing others to disregard your value as a human being. In reality, you are not a victim. You only have yourself to blame for not believing in yourself and for permitting them to drain you of your life force energy. When you allow others to disrespect you, you are giving away your power!

To regain your self-respect and personal power, make all your choices for the highest good of all concerned. When you honor the people you connect with, they will respond to you in a similar fashion. If for some reason they don’t, do them a favor and set them free to learn their own lessons. When people fail to treat you with kindness, they are disconnected from the source and reacting rather than communicating in a genuine thoughtful manner. Happiness is an inside job that can only be realized when you live true to your values and personal truth.

No matter what appears in your life, choose to see it as a blessing rather than a curse. Then, embrace the energy that wells up within you to become proactive and empowered. Feel the pain of personal growth and use it to push you into taking the action steps necessary to live in alignment with your authentic self.  

What manifests is determined by your ability to say yes to life, to live your best life now. Stop wallowing in negativity and know that you are right where you need to be. There are no mistakes only challenges that help awaken you to your inner greatness. Make an empowered choice to see the glass half full instead of half empty. Each lesson learned teaches you what works and what doesn’t work in your life. With a heightened awareness, you are better able to make informed decisions.    

From a place of completeness, shine the light of your new found enlightenment upon your perception to align for success.

Stop being a doormat, and choose to salute the Christ within yourself, and every person on your pathway! You were born to bless the world with your gifts!!!